Invisible Me

Among various awkward moments of life there is one where we find ourselves no where.  I am not talking about being aimless or going stray on path of life. It is about moments where no one else find us or actually try to find us. Its about times when we find ourselves standing on middle of footpath while surrounding people keep by-passing us and yet not see us. They make slight movement to pass across us, keeping us at comfortable distance. Some do make a glance, even have slight eye contact; yet that's of so formal-rush, it keeps them in protected zone where we can't seek their attention without declaring a need. Actually, its case with all, everyone keep themselves at distance from getting invited for any such ask-whats-going-wrong-with-you.

There could be time when you be limping with a aching foot. Person beside you notice it; hold his work; asks you, "Are you OK?". Your first reaction is "ohh!!! Its fine. Will be OK". That person without giving another thought go back doing what he put on hold and you go back limping and feeling more uncomfortable. If that person was any stranger or little acquainted then you may not have felt that bad. But its miserable feeling in case people be someone who you expect to pay more attention to your welfare.

We all have created a system where we don't see our closed ones deep inside to find out what exactly they are going through. We do ask them How they been lately, but most of time don't expect any deviation from standard answers. We find our own misery big enough to justify having floating kind of relation with others, instead of making genuine effort to add value in life of people matter to us.

I heard people saying: "They don't care then why we do?", "I have my own problem, how can i help other", "I don't think i can make any difference to others" and many more. All in all, conditions weigh more than our relation with them, in deciding how we care for others in our lives.

Elderly people found wanting for their children's attention and time. Siblings seek sharing & guidance; while friends look for acceptance and time. Its "feeling of wanted" which we all seeks from our closed ones. Its something which we don't want to ask; but do look forward to.

The phase when we find no one wants us (even though its momentarily) we find ourselves no where...

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